Grief can touch every part of life. It may follow the loss of someone you love, a big life change or a change that comes with getting older. No matter what the cause, grief can affect both your mind and your body.
Everyone experiences grief in their own way. There is no “right” way to grieve, and you don’t have to go through it alone. Learning about grief and knowing when to ask for help can make it easier to care for yourself during a hard time.
Understanding grief
Grief can bring many different feelings. You may feel sad, angry, confused or numb. Your feelings may also change from day to day. You might feel better for a while and then have a hard day again. Grief can change from day to day, and there is no set way you should feel.
Grief can also affect your body. You may have trouble sleeping, feel very tired or notice changes in your appetite. You may even have headaches or other aches and pains.
Your emotional and physical health are connected. Pay attention to how you are feeling. If grief is making it hard to sleep, eat, care for yourself or do your usual activities, talk with your primary care doctor or advanced practice provider* (APP).
5 ways to care for yourself while grieving
There is no quick way through grief. But small steps can help you care for yourself and feel supported along the way.
1. Give yourself space to grieve
It’s okay to feel sad, angry, worried or unsure. Try not to judge yourself or feel like you need to “get over it.”
Give yourself space to work through your feelings in your own way.
2. Stay connected with others
Grief can make you want to be alone. But spending time with people you trust can help.
Call a friend or family member. Take a walk with a neighbor. Share a meal with someone you care about. You don’t have to talk about your loss. Sometimes simply being with another person can bring comfort.
3. Ask for help when you need it
You don’t have to handle grief by yourself. Talking with a counselor, therapist, faith leader or a grief support group may help.
If grief is making it hard to get through your day, make an appointment with your primary care doctor or APP. They will listen to your concerns and connect you with the right support.
4. Take care of your body
Daily routines may feel harder when you are grieving. So try starting with small steps.
Work hard to eat regular, healthy meals and drink enough water. Get rest when you can. Gentle movement, such as walking or stretching, may also help you feel better.
Remember to keep up with your regular medicines and medical visits as well.
5. Be patient with yourself
There is no set timeline for grief, and some days may be harder than others.
That is why it is key to be patient with yourself. Small things matter. Getting outside, calling a friend or making yourself a healthy meal can all be signs of progress.
Planning ahead can bring peace of mind
Grief can sometimes make us think about what matters most and the care we would want in the future. While these conversations may feel difficult, planning ahead can bring peace of mind to you and the people you love.
An advance directive is one way to make your healthcare wishes known if you are unable to speak for yourself. It can also help your loved ones feel more prepared if they ever need to make decisions about your care.
It is important to remember that grief is personal, and everyone moves through it differently. There may be easier days and harder days along the way. Staying connected, caring for yourself and reaching out when you need help can make a difference.
*An advanced practice provider includes a nurse practitioner or physician assistant.
To schedule an appointment with Dr. Katina Hope, please contact Village Medical – Kimball Bridge at 470-826-4981 or visit us at 4395 Kimball Bridge Rd., Suite 100, Johns Creek, GA 30022. We look forward to caring for you and supporting your health every step of the way.